Even the New York Times agrees- as much as it pains me to admit… (I don’t generally agree with much that come out on the pages of the NYT), here is their take on why the 20-somethin’s are so slow to “grow up”…  (If your not in our College / 20 Somethin’s group, we are working through some of the book or Ecclesaties, this last week we looked at  Eccl. 3:1-11 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven… and talked about the value of recognizing how God uses season in our lives to mature us and how the recent generations have put off traditional commitments of marriage and having children.)

Some qoutes from the article…

The median age at first marriage in the early 1970s, when the baby boomers were young, was 21 for women and 23 for men; by 2009 it had climbed to 26 for women and 28 for men, five years in a little more than a generation. page 1

Even if some traditional milestones are never reached, one thing is clear: Getting to what we would generally call adulthood is happening later than ever. page 1

Is emerging adulthood a rich and varied period for self-discovery, as Arnett says it is? Or is it just another term for self-indulgence? page 2

What if the brain has its own hierarchy of needs? When people are forced to adopt adult responsibilities early, maybe they just do what they have to do, whether or not their brains are ready. Maybe it’s only now, when young people are allowed to forestall adult obligations without fear of public censure, that the rate of societal maturation can finally fall into better sync with the maturation of the brain. page 5

Nor do parents expect their children to grow up right away — and they might not even want them to. Parents might regret having themselves jumped into marriage or a career and hope for more considered choices for their children. Or they might want to hold on to a reassuring connection with their children as the kids leave home. page 5

The fact that emerging adulthood is not universal is one of the strongest arguments against Arnett’s claim that it is a new developmental stage. If emerging adulthood is so important, why is it even possible to skip it? page 8

JEFFREY JENSEN ARNETT, a psychology professor at Clark University in Worcester, Mass., is leading the movement to view the 20s as a distinct life stage, which he calls “emerging adulthood.” page 1 (This is among my favorite quotes and leave it to a psychologist… “emerging adulthood”, why not call “prolonging immaturity” or“the extension of avoiding personal-responsibility”!)

The full article can be found at:


The New York Time agrees…

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