Robertson McQuilkin’s story is worth reading for at least two reasons. 1) It invites us to consider what it means to love. What if a person no longer meet our physical or emotional needs in a relationship? Does that cancel my responsibility to meet the needs of the other persons? I find that almost all of my relationships are valued on an exchange rate: The more I get out the relationship the more I value it and am willing to put back into it. Contrast that with Gods relationship with us. 2) I am convinced that the reason this story has been retold so many times is that it paints a picture of what we all want in life, but so rarely discover from others or give to others. Loyalty. Especially when it cost someone else dearly (be it money, emotional support or social standing with others) we generally find few who will stick it out with us. Likewise when it cost us dearly to stand with others (especial if there is little chance of getting something out of it) most of us waffle on our support of others. Can it not be said that the same is true of our relationship with God? If it cost too much or the pay back doesn’t sastify often we waffle in our loyalty to Him?
Our culture is a full of sad stories of couples who professed “till death do us part”, only to find that there were other things that would lead to their parting, long before death. Marriage is rarely seen as a covenant anymore. A commitment that two people enter into, with the hope that the other person fulfills their responsibility in the relationship well, but understood that you are responsible to uphold your own end of the covenant (the one that you actually have power to fulfill). If you are married I hope it’ll inspire you show this kind of selflessness. If you’re not yet married I hope it helps you form in your mind a picture that marriage is about commitment to selflessly loving your spouse – even when they may not fulfill your desires.
How about you?
1. We tend to think that its others who fail in being loyal to us. But can you think of a time when it cost you dearly to stand with someone else and you followed through?
2. Whats your favorite story of someone being loyal even though it came with a great personal cost?
3. What other insights did you find reading the article?