Typically we think the game “21 Questions” is for kids.  At a Christmas Party this last week I played a version of it.  It got me thinking. Nick asked me a few weeks ago about what I hoped to get out of our group conversations on Wednesday Nights.  One of the things I try to do is to get people thinking.  I want to challenge opinions and ideas.  Get people to think about issues from another perspective.  Help people understand how they arrived at the conclusion they now hold.  Among the best tools for helping people wrestle with these subjects is to create thought provoking questions.  I believe asking good questions is one of the keys to creating an atmosphere where we can learn together.  Asking good questions is one of the common traits that the most influential teachers that have impacted my life all share.  I don’t think it’s easy to ask good questions.  Some people may be better than others at doing it, but I believe we can all learn to get better at it.   I read an article this last week that got me thinking about how to improve my own ability to ask good questions.  It’s a simple idea.  Ask yourself, “What questions do I wish other people would ask me”?   People who ask you good questions are like a gift, they give your a chance to talk about what you’re passionate about but can also challenge you to answer deep unexplored areas of your own life!  Wouldn’t you like to help others do the same?

Here is the article “Reclaiming the Art of Meaningful Conversation“.  It has 5 short simple ideas.


What do you think?  What one tip could you adopt to improve your conversations?

21 Questions.

2 thoughts on “21 Questions.

  • December 27, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    Asking the questions you don’t want to be asked cuz giving an honest answer sounds too scary??

  • December 27, 2013 at 8:11 pm


    Great article!
    Asking people the questions i would want to be asked was something that i havent really thought about. Thats a great idea to start an in depth conversation. However the point this article made that would most help my daily conversations is listening ‘with my brain’. I think i dont do a good enough job of paying attention to the tones and facial expressions of both myself and whomever i am talking to.


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